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Living for Christ in the Home

Ephesians 5:17-25, 6:1-4

Fourth Sunday of Lent

March 14, 2010

The breakdown of the contemporary family is well documented and universally acknowledged.  It crosses all religious, economic, political and national boundaries, with disastrous consequences.  In an attempt to preserve and strengthen the family, well meaning Christians have embraced the idea that the primary institution, in the plan of God, is the family.  Actually the Church is the primary institution in the plan of God.  The Church is the family of God and the body of Christ. Christ died for the Church, and the new life of the individual Christian is lived in the context of God's new people, the Church.  The home life of a Christian family, then, is, or should be, the home life of the Church. The home is the place where members of the Church live and work together every day, and put their faith into action.  The Christian family, then, is a picture, or reflection of the Church.  In the plan of God, the members of the family are, first of all, members of the Church in its universal and local manifestations.  The members of Christ's Church bring all of life under His Lordship.  Everything in life is centered upon Christ.  Thus, they honour Christ in their homes, their work, their entertainment, and in every facet and calling of life.

The ancient monasteries and convents caught something of the vision of God here.  They saw themselves essentially as a church and all of life was intended to revolve around it.  Every task was performed for the glory of God and the good of the church, whether leading prayers or feeding the animals, cooking the meals or doing the dishes.

The ancient English village gives an even better picture of this vision.  The village was a community in which everyone considered himself or herself a member of the Church.  Thus, the village was the church in action.  Life revolved around the Church.  Each day began in the Church with Morning Prayer.  Each day ended in the Church with Evening Prayer.  The pastor was the spiritual leader in the community.  He was charged with the task of teaching the Scriptures, preaching the sermons, leading the worship, and all the other ministerial functions.  The magistrate was charged with the civil leadership of the community.  The blacksmith shod the horses.  The miller ground the wheat, the tailor mended the clothes, and most people were fairly self-sufficient, keeping their own sheep and cattle, and raising their own crops for food.  In this plan, the Church was the community, and the community was the Church.  The families were considered sub groups of the Church, where the people lived and worked together.  They had charge of their children and were responsible for raising them to love and honour God.  Thus, they had their children baptized, and brought them to Church, where they were not segregated away from the parents to be entertained, but learned to love and worship God from infancy.  Thus, the whole community saw itself as one united Church working together for the glory of God.  This idea was extended throughout the nation, so the villages were united together into the nation, and the whole nation was a Church.

If you look into the Bible, and substitute the word, "synagogue" for "church," you will see that this view of life comes right out of the Bible and is the Biblical ideal for a peaceful and happy society.  Unfortunately, we are sinners, and do not always live up to the ideal. So, in the New Testament there is a very distinct line drawn between the Church and the world.  The community is not the Church.  Instead, the Church is the community of believers that is very distinct, and even called out and apart from, the world.

Back to the family, a group of people living under the same roof but not functioning together as a subset of the church is missing the mark.  And the further away from the plan of God our family life falls, the more unhappy it becomes, while the more closely it approaches the mark, the more happiness and real joy we find in our family relationships. 

Men, the spiritual and moral health of your family is your responsibility.  It is primarily your job to make it happen.  That is why the Bible tells wives to submit to their husbands (Eph. 5:22), and children to obey their parents (Eph. 6:1).  They are to follow your leadership in establishing the spiritual and moral "climate" of your home.  But there's a catch, men, you can't make it happen by force.  You make it happen by leadership and by love.  You are to love your wife as Christ loves the Church (Eph. 5:25) and to bring up the children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Eph. 6:4). Nurturing is not accomplished by authoritarian dictatorship.  It is accomplished through loving guidance.  Again the example is Christ. As He gave His life for the Church, you must give your life for your wife, and children.  Your lives, men, are to be living sacrifices in their service, and to be a living sacrifice in their service is a major part of being a living sacrifice in the service of God (Rom 12:1).

Ladies, the spiritual and moral health of your family is your responsibility.  You are not left out of the picture, nor are you relieved of responsibility.  You are your husband's helpmeet, and the two of you are partners in this enormous task.  He cannot accomplish it, cannot have any hope of even the smallest success in it without your input, your support, and your permission.  You are not a silent slave.  You are a working partner in the God-given task of establishing a Christian home and ensuring that your home and family conforms to the will of God in all things.  Thus, you will study and apply the Bible to your family life.  You will counsel, and give direction to you family, who will gladly submit to you, and you will also gladly submit to them.  This, too, is part of being a living sacrifice to God.

Children, the spiritual and moral health of your family is your responsibility.  Children start as learners, whose primary task is obedience.  But as you grow you assume more personal responsibility for your own faith, and for your own contributions to the spiritual climate of the home.  It is your job, as much as it is everyone else's job, to contribute to the positive godliness of the home.  It is your job, as much as it is the job of every other member of the family, to order your lives and conduct yourselves in ways that will enable you to be ready for Prayers, ready for worship, and active participants in the well ordering and smooth functioning of the family.  Again, this is part of what it means for you to be a living sacrifice unto God.

The foundation of the home is mutual submission, and mutual submission begins with submission to the will of God. But mutual submission also requires us to submit to one another. That is why, in Ephesians 5, before he gets to the particulars of the workings of the Christian family, the Apostle Paul instructs us to be in mutual submission. If Christianity is going to work, in the Church, in the home, or in any other place, we must be in a constant state of submitting ourselves one to another in the fear of God (Eph. 5:21). This requires a constant and continuing effort.  It is to become the constant attitude of our lives.

Let us close with the prayer For a Blessing on the Families of the Land, found on page 598 of the Prayer Book.

"Almighty God, our heavenly Father, who settest the solitary in families; We commend to thy continual care the homes in which thy people dwell.  Put far from them, we beseech thee, every root of bitterness, the desire of vain-glory, and the pride of life. Fill them with faith, virtue, knowledge, temperance, patience, godliness. Knit together in constant affection those who, in holy wedlock, have been made one flesh; turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to the fathers; and so enkindle fervent charity among us all, that we be evermore kindly affectioned with brotherly love; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen."

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